Quit Being a Zero and Get a Hero

     WTF is going on in 2013 that people are causing their own misery by LYING to themselves and any and every one they can get to listen.  The FIRST step in achieving the healthy, productive relationship that you desire is………this is groundbreaking here…….ADMITTING THAT YOU WANT A RELATIONSHIP.  Quit with all this “I’m good by myself”………”#TeamSingle”……….”I’m not lonely, I’m just not being lied to”……..”I’m too independent to be settled down”.  It’s total and complete BULLSHIT.  Did you get that?  You are not even fooling yourself with that rubbish!!!!!!!!!! Every other word that you utter and or type tells your truth.  The misery that has taken up residence in your being and actions……..has unmasked you boo boo.  So just QUIT IT!!!!!!!!! If you keep saying you don’t want something…..NO ONE WILL GET IN LINE TO GIVE IT YO YOU…..they will simply move to the next person who does and build upon that.

     From there, you need to take time to get over/make amends/learn from/grow from your PAST relationships.  Stop buying into this pop culture, music based crap brain washing you into thinking you should be in competition with your ex’s NEW MATE.  News flash silly……IT DIDN’T WORK FOR A REASON. That person took the time to get past you and learn……..now they can be a better person for themselves and the new mate.

     If you believe in your heart of hearts that you are better than the person that your ex is with…..go get you a mate that matches you! DO NOT lessen your self-worth by behaving in a manner than toddlers would not even stoop to.  BE the person that you claim to be and relax the immaturity.

     What do you think you are accomplishing contacting an ex about what they didn’t do for you that they are doing for another? What message are you sending by asking around town about your ex’s new fling? What good comes your way from lying to an ex about their new mate? UMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM… let me answer those for you.  You come across as desperate and needy and pathetic and still OBSESSED with your ex! YOU will NEVER look better to your ex by doing this…..they are an ex…..THEY DON’T WANT YOU. IT DIDN’T WORK OUT FOR A REASON……..LET THAT SHIP SAIL.

     Take the energy that you are so vehemently putting into destroying another’s house to satisfy the misery monkey on your shoulder and put it into fixing you! DO NOT buy into the myth passed from one broken heart to the next that you had not a damn thing to do with a relationship not working.  Rather your picker was off or you lied, cheated, showed little to no affection or interest……you played a part.  It takes two to make it work or to make it fail.  PEOPLE PLEASE STOP LIVING IN THE PAST.  Move toward the future HONESTLY.

      Do not get me wrong…..there are people that are happier than a kid in a candy store with casual dating.  There are also people that truly have no desire to ever have a mate.  BUT let us be truthful with one another here……the vast majority of the planet wants their happily ever after! If they didn’t….dating sites would not exist………make-up would not sell……Steve Harvey would not have written a book……..advice columns would merely tell you where to shop………body wash wouldn’t have pheromone infusion……Valentine’s Day and Sweetest Day would NOT be celebrated.

       Last…..but by no means least……. STOP LOOKING FOR LOVE.  It’s called “falling in love” for a reason.  Love will find you when you LEAST expect it and take you on a whirlwind journey.  You can’t force it. You can NOT MAKE ANYONE love you.  You can NOT MAKE YOURSELF love someone either.  All you can do is properly prepare yourself to be noticed by your happily ever after.

Discipline 2013 Style

     Recently, the guardian of a girl in Sacramento was criticized for her brand of discipline.  This guardian is raising her younger sister who has been lying and stealing (most notably, the dog of a friend).  The punishment (that now has members of the community upset) was for the young lady to stand on a busy street corner holding a neon green sign that read, “I lie to and steal from my family and friends.” 

     This brand of punishment in NOTHING new in our current climate…….hell, there have been judges that have sentenced people to hold similar signs………BBBBBBBUUUUUUTTTTTT because this intersection gets 1,000’s of cars that pass by it and the girl cried when asked what she did people are saying that her guardian went too far.  ******Wait while I scratch my head********* Ok……..sooooooooo, it is NOT ok to spank……..it is NOT ok to yell……time out clearly is NOT working for our society as a whole………and NOW children should NOT be humiliated in order for a lesson to be taught?!

    Well golly gee Gomer, why don’t we just keep on breeding spree shooters that throw murderous fits when they can’t have their way because they have NEVER been held accountable for crap!!!! Oh dang, I almost forgot……we don’t like when that happens……we as society want to criticize the parents for not being strict enough when the kids go postal.  So can someone PLEASE tell me what is left to do? If you are one of those bleeding heart idiots that is mad because this could be delinquent had to stand with a sign because she STOLE and LIED…..would you be happier if she were beat to a pulp? Or would it make your day if NO punishment was rendered and then one day she is stealing your belongings at gun point?

     I would also like to know why this brand of punishment is ok for girls who twerk……boys that steal….bullies…..shoplifters…….sexters……BUT not this girl who STOLE FROM HER FRIEND? I have sat back and watched other parents get pats on the back for IDENTICAL punishments when their daughters were caught wearing short shorts or twerking it like Miley…….but this guardian makes the news and people are criticizing. HHHHHHMMMMMMMMM…….something is rotten here folks.  Who exactly is setting these new discipline rules? When did it become a scarlet letter sentence to be a parent? Why is it so bad to want to set out into the world: well behaved, educated, respectful, law abiding citizens? When did being a kid’s buddy become the standard?

    Wait….wait….wait…….I am asking all the wrong questions here.  WHEN DID HYPOCRACY CONSUME US? That is the proper question.  We don’t like to hear about sexualized children, mass shootings, prison sentences for minors, etc……YET we don’t want them disciplined.  We want them to feel equal.  We want them to like us.  We want them to live the childhood and adolescence that we desired (even though maturity SHOULD reign supreme in us currently).  We want all of this while simultaneously rolling our eyes at the mother whose child is cursing her at Walmart……….whispering about the father whose son got arrested for stealing…….shaking our heads in disgust at the teen who shoots up his high school cafeteria because he didn’t get the latest game console. 

    Wake up America!!!!!!! It is time to take a side and it is far past time to grow the fuck up!!!!!!!!!! Be a parent and support fellow parents by ACTUALLY DISCIPLING YOUR CHILDREN……..by STANDING TOGETHER FOR THE SAKE OF EVERYONE’S TOMORROW. This generation that you are trying to make your besties are our future EVERYTHNG……….take a good long hard look around and ask yourself……..

WILL I FEEL SAFE WITH THEM IN CHARGE?